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Posted by Rich Fettke.
"I nourish my body with just the right amount of healthy, nutritious foods."
"I am a loving husband and father who lives a high-quality life."
"My work is helping people get the most out of life."
These are a few of the affirmations I say to myself each day. Over the past twenty years, I have read dozens of books, listened to hundreds of tapes, and attended countless seminars to help me grow both personally and professionally. One of the lessons I frequently heard in my studies, was to use the power of affirmations to be, do and have what I most want in life. I didn’t really buy it. I thought, "How can just saying some words to myself over and over make any difference in my life?" Now I know different.
Over the past few years I have experimented with affirmations. I’ve followed the timeless lessons: Write them down, phrase them in positive language, say them throughout the day, etc. Now I find myself praising the benefits of this "Success Ritual" with my coaching clients, when I speak, and when I write. (I’m actually doing it right now)
Tony Collette, a major contributor in the field of autosuggestion, defines affirmations as "positive statements about yourself or a situation spoken in the first person and present tense. They describe what you want to be, what you want to have, how you want to live."
If you want to be, do and have what you want most in life, I strongly suggest you add affirmations to your daily success habits.
Write out at least three affirmations based on your goals or on qualities you wish to further develop in yourself. Write them in positive language (not "I won’t…" or "I don’t…"). Read them when you wake up, before every meal, and right before you go to bed. Do this consistently for 30 days and notice how affirmations can work for you.
Posted by Rich Fettke.
"You will learn and grow according to the nature and consequences of your actions." -Robert Anthony
What came first, your habits or your belief that those habits are just the way you are? It could be one or the other. If you believe that you’re a person who has a hard time waking up early in the morning, you might have a habit of hitting the snooze button several times. Or, maybe your habit of hitting the snooze button is actually confirming your belief that you have a hard time waking up in the morning.
We can often change the beliefs we hold about ourselves by changing our habits. Do you have a habit that confirms a belief about yourself? Is that habit serving you — or is it confirming some belief about yourself that you wish was different?
By choosing and committing to a new habit, you will actually believe that you are that type of person. Why? Because you will have created proof based on your actions. That belief will make it easier for your new habit to become an actual habit. It will be who you are rather than who you want to be "someday."
What is one habit that would support you in being the type of person you truly want to be? For example, if you want to be a more courageous person, then create the habit of taking a risk a day. If you want to be a more loving person, then create the habit of doing something loving each day. If you want to be a healthier person, then create the habit of exercising each day.
By the end of 30 days — after you commit and persist with your new habit — I guarantee you will have a new perspective and belief about who you are. Then you can choose the next habit that you want to develop and strengthen.