Rich Fettke

Create a Dream Gallery

Posted on 25. Jan, 2008 by Rich Fettke.

"Dreaming illustrates your hidden capacities and your unawakened ability."
— Peter Daniels

CREATE A DREAM GALLERY

When I was a little boy, a couple of months before Christmas, my mom would ask my brothers and me to make "Wish List Posters." We would go through catalogs and magazines and cut out pictures of special toys and gadgets that we wanted for presents. Then we would paste them onto a big poster board and make a collage. We always loved this tradition and it got us extra excited for the upcoming holiday. Little did my mom know that she was showing us the basics of creating a Dream Gallery.

A Dream Gallery is a poster or a 3-ring binder that displays images and words of the things you want to have in your life, such as experiences, people, material possessions and feelings. These images often display values like freedom, play, romance, achievement or beauty. They also can represent personal qualities you want to develop such as calmness, courage or an open mind. Basically, a Dream Gallery is a visual reminder of images and words that inspire you and remind you of your dreams.

Looking at your Dream Gallery gives you extra motivation while putting you in a terrific mood. By adding pictures and words that focus on what you want, you will better clarify what you are working toward by inspiring yourself on a regular basis. It’s like high-octane motivation fuel.

ACTION IDEA:

Get a stack of magazines and cut out the images and words that best display how you see your ideal future. Then arrange and paste those images and words on a poster board or in a 3-ring binder so it displays the experiences and the things that you want to have in your life.

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Ask Yourself “WAIT”

Posted on 01. Jan, 2008 by Rich Fettke.

"Many people who have the gift of gab don’t know how to wrap it up." -Arnold H. Glasow

ASK YOURSELF, "WHY AM I TALKING?"

There’s an old saying in sales that goes – "You have two ears and one mouth, use them in that ratio." Many people don’t realize that the easiest way to be a great conversationalist is by NOT talking. Have you ever noticed people that seem to be giving you a monologue when they are talking to you? They don’t give you a chance to share your ideas or input and they go on and on about themselves. How do you feel when that happens?

When we are talking it is almost impossible to hear what the other person is really saying. This is a common cause of relationship problems and lack of support for each other. If people would just take the time to really listen to each other they would see a major improvement in their relationships and their lives. A simple way to remember this principle is the acronym WAIT.

    Why
    Am
     I
    Talking?

I have a little sign at my desk that simply says WAIT. When I am coaching a client and I find myself looking to give them my view or knowledge, I look over at this sign and I ask myself, "Why am I talking?" Am I not allowing this person to tap into his or her own wisdom? Am I focusing on being right and having the answer for them? Am I uncomfortable with the silence? (Which is often where the best answers are found.)

If you want to improve your relationships, your partnerships and your life, remember to WAIT. You will most likely be surprised at the learning and the benefit that you, and the person you are communicating with, receive.

ACTION IDEA:

Remember "WAIT" in three of your conversations this week – and notice what you learn.

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